I read a blog post from the other day, that was titled “The Problem with Girl Boss”. While the blogger, whom I respect, makes the point that there shouldn’t be the need to add “Girl” to “Boss”, and just be “Boss”, I agree. I do not consider myself a feminist, I do believe that Girls, Gals, Women, Ladies, Females…should be empowered to embrace their strength, and purpose, to make an impact in this world.
During the Rodan + Fields Convention this month, that was in Las Vegas, (I wish I was there), the keynote speaker was by Amy Cuddy, TED speaker, an American Social Psychologist, and professor at Harvard Business School. She spoke on body language and posturing, and how our non-verbal communication not only speaks to others, but dictates how we think.
She referenced a study that asked boys and girls, ages 4-6 years old (as this is the time frame that gender roles are learned) to identify the boy and girl figures. The wooden figures were either posed with arms up high or on hips in an expansive high power pose, or arms folded and or legs crossed in a smaller, lower power pose. What was startling was that more girls chose the figures that were small posed as girls and the ones in more expansive poses as boys. WHY?? Because we are teaching our young girls to sit quietly, like a lady, and encouraging our boys to be powerful and demand a presence. I believe, this needs to change. Girls should also be encouraged to be powerful, exhibit their strength, and be heard.
Sophia Amoruso, the founder and Executive Chairman of Nasty Gal, a $250 million plus fashion retailer and the original #GIRLBOSS, which is the title of her New York Times Bestselling book, explains what a Girl Boss is.
“A #GIRLBOSS is someone who’s in charge of her own life. She gets what she wants because she works for it. As a #GIRLBOSS, you take control and accept responsibility. You’re a fighter – you know when to throw punches and when to roll with them. Sometimes you break the rules, sometimes you follow them, but always on your own terms. You know where you’re going, but can’t do it without having some fun along the way. You value honesty over perfection. You ask questions. You take your life seriously, but you don’t take yourself too seriously. You’re going to take over the world, and change it in the process. You’re a badass.” page 11, #GIRLBOSS
I own GIRLBOSS, I own myself. I own my mistakes, my failures, my successes. I own my dreams and I own my ability to create the plans to make those dreams be manifested into my reality. And I will celebrate other GIRLBOSSes that are doing the same.
GIRLBOSS isn’t just a cutesy thing to say “You Go Girl.” It’s to validate that little girl’s dreams. Take up space, be confident in your strengths! So, Get It GirlBoss! GET IT!