Don’t Compare your HUSTLE to their HIGHLIGHT REEL. – Sophia Amoruso, #GIRLBOSS
Ewl, look at her hair…I wish I had that bag…Why is she so successful?…How is it that she has that great job?…Her family looks so perfect…UGH, she’s posting vacation pictures again. I wish I could take a vacation…How could she be so happy?…
Seriously, you and I have had these thoughts pop up in our minds from time to time. Be honest. You know that pang of jealousy that hits your gut and you wish things were different in your life and wonder how life can be so perfect for others? You know what? Comparison is a REAL B*tch. Especially in this digital age, with a constant stream of info coming at us in the palm of our hands, literally…it can be overwhelming.
I have had some real haters in my life, all throughout my life. When I was a toddler, my older sister, from my Dad’s first marriage, would do very cruel things to me and blame things on me to get me in trouble. She saw me as a threat and was jealous of the attention that I received from our father. As, I grew older, there were the girls that just did not like me because I was a cheerleader and they were on the sports teams. Typical high school drama, but none the less, petty. In college, a group of girls just straight up hated me because I would simply get a better grade in my projects than they did. It’s so silly and lame how easy it is to tear someone else down because they are successful. I have always treated these “haters” with kindness and respect. It took some courage on my part to not allow their insecurities rob me of my joy or my integrity.
Haters can also be from people closest to you in your life, unfortunately. When I decided to become my own BOSS, and start my own business, oh the haters had things to say!
- “You’re never going to be successful, that business model is a pyramid scheme.”
- “You went to college to do that?”
- “That’s too risky.”
- “Don’t try to push your products on me.”
- “Oh, you do ‘commercials’ for them now?”
Did that hurt? Yes, of course it did. You expect that the closest people in your life would be supportive. I had to learn to just turn that negativity OFF. That means, for me, to not talk to these people, unless absolutely necessary. Because, it’s not about ME, it’s all about THEM and how they are insecure in themselves. You can not be worried about pleasing them, you have to do what is best for you and for your soul.
Comparison isn’t just the thief of joy, it’s the thief of everything. Keep your eyes on YOUR purposeful path. CELEBRATE OTHERS. Celebrate progress, not perfection. Cultivate GRATITUDE over Comparison. Gratitude turns what we have into more than enough. – Lara Casey
This is why I LOVE my creative community! Bloggers, creatives, entrepreneurs, small business owners, the hustlers and dreamers putting themselves into action! This is another reason behind my name, GET IT GIRL BOSS! Surround yourself with people who get it. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are You, nobody else could be you, even if they tried. You are unique and beautiful. Nobody else is you.
YOU GO GIRL! Let the cheers and words of encouragement drown out all the hate and negativity. I believe in YOU! You have a raving fan in me!
Encourage each other and build each other up. – 1 Thess 5:11
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