Confidence is like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets.
It’s been a 30 days since my last blog post, and I’m sorry for being MIA. It’s been a crazy month of lots and lots of change. BIG CHANGES!
We closed on our new home in Texas, my Hubby and I are finally putting down some roots, and purchased a house for us and our three girls. We said goodbye to being nomad renters, and made our final move (for a good long while). Packing and unpacking is stressful, and one of the major things this move is to get rid of all the CLUTTER that I have. As I opened every box, some that I haven’t opened in more than a year since moving from Las Vegas to Houston, and asked myself, “Do I need it? Do I love it? Does it make me happy.” If it was a NO to every question, back into the box it went, and wrote DONATE on the box. Our new house is slowly beginning to feel like home now, as I hang up our family photos and display cherished mementos from my travels long ago.
The biggest change that has honestly, been the most stressful, this month, was starting a new job with a new company. After 15 years with my prior company, as a Store Manager, it was time to grow in my career. It is absolutely one of the best decisions I made, and it has also proven to me to be the most frustrating. Not with my new company, but frustrated with myself. I went from being the expert in my role to the beginner. Sure, I know, I need to give myself some grace, and I know that I have to be flexible in learning the new processes. So, here is my Beginners Guide to Starting Over…
- It’s Okay to ASK QUESTIONS – You may have started something new – new job, new industry, new school, new dance class, new lifestyle change. You have questions! And, it’s totally okay to ask a question, because seriously, when you are learning, there are no stupid questions. Don’t be shy or embarrassed. Don’t try to look it up yourself and work it out. It’s a lot easier to ask someone who has been doing it for a while. Understand that you are always improving.
- Progress over Perfection – I’m such a type A personality, that I want to rush through the process to get it all perfect. This is where I got to slow my roll, and be patient with understanding the nuts and bolts of the machine. Each day, I set a daily goal, and I write it down in a journal I keep in my purse. I list out 3 tasks that I want to achieve that day. Keeping the tasks to only 3, makes it manageable to complete and achieve. Whether it’s setting aside 1 hour to work through a program, tool, or building a relationship with someone on my team, each task will get me closer in progressing through my learning curve. And, a little progress each day adds up to big results. So keep going!
- Keep a Positive Outlook – Sure, I question whether I made the right choice in starting over, and I’m quickly reminded of my WHY I decided to make that change. You have to reject self-limiting thoughts, and push through it. Never give fear the upper hand. It’s helpful to talk with someone you trust and who is a positive mentor in your life. They will always offer you words of encouragement to lift you up and tell you that you are doing a good job. (And, you are, BTW…)
- Take care of your Body – Stress can all of sudden get you in the worst way possible, with you becoming sick and overly tired. Your brain is on go-go-go, and your body will remind you that you need to rest. On your days off, completely shut off from anything work related, and REST. Take that nap, go get your nails done, take a hike or go to the gym, and snuggle with your babies. Do something that you enjoy. Taking care of your body is crucial to being the happiest person you can be.
- Celebrate small wins – You just mastered that new program, you hit a major sales goal, you had a great meeting, whatever it is, be sure to CELEBRATE! Just like how babies learn to crawl, walk, and run, we celebrate every little milestone! Because that IS an accomplishment.
Keep going GirlBoss. I believe in you. The Master was once a Beginner. Get it, GirlBoss.
Photography by the amazing Taylor, of Taylor Elizabeth Photography, Houston, TX
The Black Labrador, English Pub in Montrose, Houston.